I have learnt over the past year when
it comes to relationships, that the most important thing for me is
the ability to be my own boss and speak up for my heart and stand up
for myself. With everything that goes on around me, things I see,
things that affect me, things that affect those close to me, I have
concluded that the only women who will survive that big thing called
love are the ones with the ability to know what they will stand for
and what they will not.
I was buying movies yesterday and in
this little room SILENTLY sat my movie guy and three other ladies. I
noticed they weren’t really buying anything and I wondered(loudly)
if they could give some of us room to pick what we want because we
were in an obvious hurry(I really wasn’t, my movie guy was giving
me the get them out of here look and I just obeyed). Luckily, they
left and when they did I got to hear the most pitiful story in the
entire world. One of the ladies who had come there had been
desperately begging my movie guy to go out for lunch with her and he
was just sitting there ignoring her. He continued to tell me how she
would call him persistently every single minute of the day, beg him
to come over to her house for lunch and even insist on sending him a
taxi or send him the money for a cab…O_O I don’t know about you
but I always wonder how a woman would have the strength to beg a man
for ANYTHING. If he can’t give you his time, attention and
affection freely then what more do you need to ask from him other
than to tell him to stop wasting your time and to get out of your
life.
I don’t mean to point a finger at
anyone but most of us ladies have become so desperate for a man, any
mans, attention that we are ready to hunt and chase him despite his
obvious disinterest. How you will be treated by a man is carefully
embedded in how you view yourself, how you think and how you also
treat and portray yourself. Seriously, a man who ignores you, who you
have to beg for his attention and who can not treat you like a queen
isn’t worth your time but truth of the matter is, how can a man
treat you like a queen when you behave like a beggar, please be sure
he will throw the little coins he has in his pocket into your little
collection cup.
I have always believed that women are
the ones who control everything. They have the emotional ability to
fully understand their men and with that be able to influence him
into favoring her, and her alone. This is not by manipulation or by
desperation but by the power of her mind, her femininity, her heart
and her strength and all of this power is simply a result of her
knowing herself and being her genuine self around him. If a man
doesn’t appreciate that you are genuine and you are the real deal
then let him go find something else but begging him for commitment
that he obviously isn’t willing to give, is just Cray. Be the boss
of your life and of every situation that you come across.
Discerning a man who is into you and
one who is not really isn’t rocket science, a man who is in awe of
you shows it, plain and simple, he doesn’t show it once a month or
when he remembers you exist but EVERY SINGLE DAY with no excuse, just
think of how he chased you when he wanted you that’s how it should
be. Let them call you high maintenance or whatever but above all else
that man ought to respect you. Craving attention over respect is what
is leading so many of us astray and what is making every man believe
that every woman he will get into a relationship with, really
doesn’t expect much from him. Why the hell would you want the
attention of a man who isn’t even sure if he wants to be with you
in the next 5minutes let alone the next day, isn’t it just
pointless? Choose to be single and happy rather than be in that
“relationship” every fortnight and be miserable.
Anyway fabulous sweethearts lets just
encourage one another and create an air of self-love and
self-importance for ourselves, make your time and your heart worth
something that should be treated with respect!
